I like this guy and things are really good when we hang out. He seems really into me and he treats me well. But then I’ll go weeks without hearing from him. If I call or text him he doesn’t always respond right away, or he says he’ll call me back but then I won’t hear from him for a week.
He Said:
Well I would say first off that either he really likes you but isn’t sure if you like him – and is trying to play it cool – or you are someone he likes but that he doesn’t see himself committing to. There is always the possibility that he is pursuing other girls, as well, which goes back to where he likes you, but not enough to pursue only you.
If he is looking for more from you, you can start by initiating some conversation, and maybe suggesting something casual things to do together. Then when you are with him, make sure to make some physical contact, such as touching him on the arm when he says something you agree with or like. If he says something funny you can even hit him on the shoulder. If it’s a teasing remark he makes, slap him on the chest (we like that).
If he has some interest, you can always increase it by how you make him FEEL when he is with you. Say cute things like “mmm, I like that” when he says something you like, or “I’m so excited” when he plans something else.
She Said:
You’re wasting your time with this guy. I know, it’s great when you are together and you’re really into him; but if he wants you, he’ll make it happen. If he’s really busy, he might go a few days without calling you up because men’s priorities are different than women’s. But he would never go THAT long.
If you are dead set on trying to get this guy (which I highly advise against), then you have to make yourself less accessible and more desirable. Start dating other guys and fill your schedule with lots of activities so if he calls at the last minute you aren’t available. It’s not game playing; it’s going to boost your self-esteem to hang out with other people who value your time and attention.
This guy will either see what he is missing out on and come around, or he’ll fade away. I suspect he is probably dating other girls and you just aren’t his priority. So make yourself your priority and get out there and see other people.
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